Building a Plan For Change #1

I had planned to write this post yesterday but was too tired. I'm at least as tired today, but I don't want to lose the momentum on what's turned into an extended series of posts so here goes. Hopefully it's not totally incomprehensible.

In each of my previous posts I've tried to relate each of the issues to my own life as it currently stands. I'm going to try and take that a step further by gathering threads from all of my previous posts and trying to chart some sort of plan to make changes in my life. Since I have more posts planned, I will be revisiting this at a later date to address additional elements or update my current status.

Defining Your Goals

In order to define your goals, you have to have some sort of end point in mind. I actually have several, but I don't want to completely overload myself (a guarantee of failure I think) so let's say that the first area to address is what I consider to be some of my personal weaknesses. Having done that I may be ready for something more ambitious. To be a little more specific:

  • Put more focus on my marriage
  • Exercise Better Control over my temper
  • Consider my Professional Future

Break It Down

I have actually taken some early steps in all these areas, but I need to look at what is causing the problems and address them in a more organized fashion so lets see:

Put more focus on my marriage

  • Stress
  • Lack of Energy
  • Distraction
  • Fear of rejection

Exercise better control over my temper

Consider my professional future

  • Fear of failure
  • Lack of Energy

You'll notice that the same problems keep cropping up and they need to be addressed first before I can make any real progress in these areas. So now I have a new list of immediate problems to solve. Lets look at each of those and what I plan to do.

Attacking the Problems

Stress: This unfortunately is primarily coming from work right now. Inevitably there is some from general family life and raising kids, but that's not the real issue. So ironically solving stress feeds right back into my goal to consider my professional future. There are some things I can do to help alleviate the issue though. Exercise is one of the most effective ones.

Lack of Energy: At least partly related to stress, also possibly due to the fact I"ve put on a few pounds. Once again exercise seems like an easy way to try and address this.

Fear: This is going to be a tough one. There are multiple issues feeding into it including depression and possibly aspergers syndrome. I don't have a good answer for this one yet. Time to start reading.

Depression: I'm already on medication and I don't think a bigger dosage is required. I'm pretty sure when I compare how I felt on vacation with how I feel right now that the problem again comes down to stress, workload and other factors. Once again exercise is a very effective way for me to combat depression.

Distraction: This is a personality issue and more reading is required to figure out how to change long established habits.

Things to Do NOW

  • So at the end of all that here is my list of things to do right now:
  • Begin an exercise regime. I'll probably go for walking, which is something I enjoy doing.
  • Read books on Aspergers, how to handle fear of change and things that I can do to improve my marriage.
And that's it. Just those three things. More than that will overload me and make it feel impossible. But if I can complete those three things, I will be able to move on to additional steps and will have at least reduced some of the problems that are making change so difficult.

Other Posts In This Series

Are You Failing Enough

Roadblocks to Change #1 – Lack of Energy

The Myth of Willpower 





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